A PARTRIDGE FOR DINNER
We all know the first line of that famous song: THE TWELVE DAYS OF CHRISTMAS. Yes, it refers to “a partridge in a pear tree”. That was the first gift that a true love gave to his beloved.
Well, I have wonderful memories of many partridges; actually, the proper name is ruffed grouse, and my late husband, Jack Earle, was a very good grouse hunter. In fact, we bought 110 acres in the middle of nowhere in 1996 because this was one of his favourite grouse hunting spots.
He knew the sweet little old lady who lived down the long lane and had asked permission to hunt on her property. When she passed away, he convinced me that this should be our retirement home; a place without power or water, in need of extensive repair, but with plenty of grouse!
We had no pear trees on the property, but an orchard of heritage apple trees in need of pruning. The deer enjoyed coming close every fall to help themselves when the apples dropped.
I am not a gourmet cook but I did learn to cook grouse very well. They are small birds and so Jack would pull out the breast, and I would cover it with a piece of aApple, a little onion powder, a spoonful of butter and salt and pepper. I placed it into a piece of aluminum foil, and would tightly seal the bird’s breast inside. It cooked at 325 degrees in about 90 minutes.
If we were having company and cooking four birds, I would shape the front of the foil as a neck, and fan out the back into a tail, and present it on the plate that way.
Hunting ruffed grouse takes a very careful and patient person; you also need to be a good shot. Jack Earle was all of that and he loved to walk with our spaniel for hours at a time, just enjoying the acreage and the fall air. He had stopped duck hunting and now, looking for grouse was his passion.
I am missing the savoury scent of a grouse in the oven, because Jack died prematurely. I am sure it was one of the happiest days of his life because we had sold our downtown store building, put the money in the bank and it was the first day of the rest of our lives. Our retirement had just begun.
We had been to the laundromat that snowy morning and upon our return, I had seen the shape of a Madonna in the trunk of one of the old apple trees. She appeared to be facing the exact spot where I found my husband’s body on the cold ground a few hours later. He had suffered a fatal heart attack at the age of 61.
It was January 5, and Jack had held his first grandchild, Arianna Joy, just a week earlier on Christmas Day. She was only two months old when he passed away, but looking at the photo of him holding her, brings much consolation to my heart.
I remember on that day he had walked past the Christmas tree which we had chosen from our property, and said: “I forgot to tie it to the wall. I guess it was the perfect tree because it was so straight.”
Jack’s sudden passing was another reminder to many of our friends that we have to live in the present, and that every day that we have together – is a present to us from God.
The Christmas Song reminds me that I miss the partridge (ruffed grouse) dinners, but I especially miss the handsome hunter who provided them.
Such a blessing for me that my true love provided the sweet smell of partridge dinners for over thirty years!
Peggy SpencerPosted at 01:23h, 26 December
A beautiful article which touches me to the depth of my being. It reminds me that Christmas time, for everyone brings back both memories of the happy times and the sad times. Sharing joys with those who are still present in our lives whilst holding deep in our hearts those loved ones who are no longer with us. There is much grief being experienced by many Australians who have lost ones in the devastating bushfires at this time and hopefully, through the coming years, it will be the ‘happy’ memories that will help to sustain them.
Lorella D'CruzPosted at 03:16h, 26 December
What a beautiful story for the ‘first day of Christmas’! I loved it, as I’m sure every other reader would have.
I could relate to it somewhat, even though my story is not Christmas-related. Like Joan, I lost my husband prematurely. His sister and her husband were visiting us in Melbourne, Australia, and they were due to return to Mumbai (then Bombay) in a few days. They had dinner at our home, and my husband had planned to take the couple for last-minute shopping the next morning. That was certainly a night to remember – my husband at his jovial best, regaling us with one joke after another (most of which we had all heard a hundred times before, but which he managed to inject with fresh humor with each re-telling). That night he passed away in his sleep of a massive heart attack, at the age of 49. However, he left us all with priceless memories of a kind, loving “gentle”-man, who greeted everybody he met with a smile and friendly word, always ready to help anyone in need – and with a unique and marvelous sense of humor and gift for spinning a yarn and keeping everyone in gales of laughter. That was his gift to us all. The memories will be with me and my children always.
Joan, yours is a beautiful story. I share with you the blessing of a true and everlasting love.
Lorella D'CruzPosted at 03:36h, 26 December
May I add a few short sentences to my comment above. Joan, I am happy your husband had the pleasure of holding his first grandchild in his arms. Mine would have loved nothing better than to walk his two daughters down the aisle and proudly hold his grandchildren too. You and I both have our own special memories to treasure.
Peter Bisson SJPosted at 07:05h, 26 December
Thank you Joan!
Susan TomensonPosted at 07:45h, 26 December
Thank you, Joan, for sharing with us a special time in your life. You are truly blessed.
Enjoy time with your grandchild, Ariana Joy.
One of my favourite Christmas songs is
“12 Days of Christmas” as well
May you have a happy Christmas Season.
Roy Frank ObrigewitschPosted at 08:46h, 26 December
A beautiful remembrance. Thank you.
Paul BakerPosted at 09:17h, 26 December
Thanks Joan. A very interesting and timely read. I too enjoy walking in nature.
Lorraine MajcenPosted at 11:01h, 26 December
Thank you Joan for sharing your heartfelt touching story. I didn’t know much about partridge/grouse, so was happy to learn more about it, and how it intertwined with your life and with your husband Jack.
Philip ShanoPosted at 11:08h, 26 December
Thanks Joan. Wonderful story!
Maria SkarzynskiPosted at 11:46h, 26 December
So touching and beautiful – thank you Joan !!
Betty Jane WyliePosted at 07:33h, 27 December
Your memories are as beautiful as you are. Thank you.
CarolePosted at 14:20h, 31 December
Thanks for sharing this very special memory! ❤️